DISC Personality and Relationships
DISC personality profiles can be very effective tools in helping to build stronger relationships. In fact, the DISC personality profile is used by many counselors and coaches in helping couples improve their relationships by understanding how they handle conflict, recognize each others’ “hot buttons” and help us understand each others’ “sensitive spots.”
DISC Personality and Conflict
DISC personality “D” type (Do-er, Dominant, Decisive) can be hard headed and difficult and will be fine as long as things are done their way. A “D” personality deals with conflict head on, and has no problem with conflict, standing up against anyone who seems to resist them or their strong beliefs. The “D” personality seeks to “Get it right” and to get results, is task-oriented more than people oriented, and their biggest fear is not getting it done.. failure. In a relationship, the “D” personality needs to be insensitive to people’s feelings and to focus on task.
DISC personality “I” type (Inspiring and Influencing) can talk their way out of almost anything as these personalities are great at influencing or inspiring others with their charm and charisma. “I” personalities seek to “Get recognized and appreciated” for their ideas, and want to share ideas and to be heard. The “I” personality is people-oriented more than task-oriented and needs to pay more attention to details and also need to focus on the task at hand. This person can be “all over the page” and may have a hard time getting focused to complete a task.
DISC personality “S” types (Steadiness, Security minded) need to understand “why” change has to occur before being thrust into change. This person is loyal, and likes to plan events as opposed to the “D” and the “I” who are more spontaneous. The “S” personality seeks “Get Harmony and Peace”, and tends to be more agreeable. Although the “S” personality may give in to pressures from “I” and “D” personality, be careful because this personality will “stew” ab0ut giving in and circle back to talk about it again.
DISC personality “C” (Compliant, Cautious, Careful) is seldom wrong because they research, and at times can over-analyze which may be perceived as being critical. The “C” personality seeks to “Get it right” and they ask alot of questions. This personality is task-oriented and although reserved in their demeanor, they can be relentless when it comes to research and getting all the facts before making a decision.
Isn’t it interesting that the very differences that attracted us to someone can become the very traits we end up resenting, and become the “hot buttons” in a relationship? When we seek first to understand our own behavior, and how we react in stressful situations and how we respond to conflict, then we can begin to appreciate the differences in others, and adapt our behavior to create more open and respectful communication.
What can you do to work through the rough spots in a relationship when each of the 4 profiles have different “motivators”? “Get it done” or “Get recognized”, “Get harmony” or finally “Get it Right”?
