1. life coaching the OtterIn an earlier blog post, we looked at how a coach can use the DiSC Assessment as a tool for building rapport with clients.  As a coach, it is helpful to understand your profile and how to apply this knowledge to improve your coaching effectiveness.  Let’s look now at the “I” – “Influencer” (Sanguine, or the Otter).

    As a coach,  who is an “I” on the DiSC profile (“Influencer), you are very interested in people, more so than the tasks, and find it more natural to talk than to listen. You are naturally intuitive and empathic with others.  You really do “feel” where they are coming from, and since you are highly creative, you will have to remember to hold back some of your own ideas. Remember, the goal of coaching is to help your clients discover and be creative.  You probably walk and talk fast so be careful with your clients… let them set the pace. Your clients appreciate how much you care about them and the trust usually goes deep. Your clients are more than “clients” to you.

    So, how do you coach someone who is an “I”?  They will most likely start strong and may begin to lose their momentum.   They are not task oriented so help them to write down  SMART Goals.  Our Influencers have a lot of ideas and are very creative, so helping them to craft their action plan, accountability and follow through are very important. As their coach, help them to keep the focus and ask them for updates.  The playful, fun loving otter is the animal that best describes the personality of an “I” so keep in mind they are social, want fun in their work, and love to be acknowledged for accomplishments.

    In a future post,  we will look at the “S” – the Steadiness personality (Phlegmatic …the Golden Retriever)

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  2. Coaching the lionIf you are a coach and you are familiar with the DISC profile, you  know that you can use this helpful tool in raising self awareness to adapt your communication for more effective coaching sessions.

    During a coaching lab recently with one of my coaching students,  we re-played the taped session so we could assess her coaching skills. My student immediately noticed she was asking more “what” questions. She said she wanted to ask different type questions next time and would focus on  using “how”, “what if”.. “tell me”.

    In further discussion about her tendency to ask “what” questions, she was reminded that in an earlier phase of our class, she took the DISC assessment, and her preferred behavioral style was “D” – Dominant (Choleric/Lion) direct, task and results-oriented.  Typically this profile prefers to ask “What” questions as it fits comfortably with their drive-for-results “what are you going to do”.. “what options are you considering?”.. “what are some possible obstacles?” 

    Although my student did not display additional tendencies of a “D” personality, I thought it may be interesting to write a blog post on all 4 profiles and this is the first.

    As a “Dominant/Direct coach, you can be more effective if you try to shift the tendency to “control”  into a “support” role, and temper your pace. You have a tendency to talk fast, move fast and expect others to do the same. Dominant/Direct people are usually “big picture” people and highly creative problem solvers.  Practice slowing down with your client; since you are a D and  “driven” for results and fast paced, you may want to practice “patience”. In some DiSC training sessions, we like to think of animals that represent the 4 personalities.  What better animal to represent the Dominant than the natural leader of the jungle, the Lion?

    And, what if you are coaching a client who has a preferred communication style of a “D”? You will want to “get to the point” and appreciate brevity.  Keep in mind that “D’s” are visionary about their future and they like brainstorming.  They make quick decisions and are  results oriented so one area you may want to help them is to ensure they are considering how their decisions will impact others, and help them think through obstacles.  They are ready to jump right in and can sometimes  “Ready, Fire, Aim.”  Since  “D”‘s are results-oriented, their personal lives and relationships can be out of balance so help them focus on the relationship side and be appreciative of  “this moment”  instead of “tomorrow”.

    Watch for a future post on the “I” – Influencer as a coach and client.

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  3. life-coach-client-partnershipYou made the commitment and hired a coach and you want to get maximum results from your sessions.  Your  sessions will most likely be anywhere from thirty minutes to one hour at various fees depending on your niche and other factors (honestly the answer when it comes to rates is “It depends”) Prior to your first session, your coach will probably send an intake package to learn more about you and where you are today in relation to your goals.  Some may ask you to take one or more assessments to help both of you gain greater insights into  your personality, values, motivators,  communication and spiritual journey.

    In preparation for the weekly session, most coaches use a weekly prep form. I use a form regularly with my clients and it is simple and to the point. I keep it simple and basically  want the answer to 3 questions.   I ask 1) what went well the past week 2) where you had challenges  and 3) where you want to focus the time on our upcoming session.   Remember, you (the client) set the agenda so be specific on where you want to focus.   Spend a few minutes of quiet time prior to each session and come prepared.

    Coaching is a lot about change and forward movement.  Your coach will partner with you, ask lots of powerful discovery questions, even challenge you as needed.  Your coach will help you develop support structures and accountability and sometimes make requests for you to take specific actions.   If you say yes to a request, get into the habit to follow through on your commitments to get the most of the coaching relationship.  If you know you will not be able to meet the request, be open and honest with your coach.  You hired a coach to get maximum results that you have not been able to accomplish on your own.  Be prepared to be challenged.  Your coach wants the best for you, and wants you to be successful. It ‘s about YOU, not the coach so be true to yourself.

    Your coach will ask you for feedback along the way and I encourage you to give feedback on what is working for you in the coach relationship, and what isn’t working for you. Sometimes you may find that you work well with a coach and the relationship may last months or even longer.   This is a partnership and when it works well, be prepared to see major positive changes take place.  Celebrate with your coach the milestones along the way.

    How have you worked in a coaching relationships as a coach or as a client? What worked well?  What didn’t work well?

  4. I believe one of the most important keys in an excellent coaching relationship, is open, non-judgmental and effective communication. And, to have an open exchange of communication, there needs to be a foundation of acceptance and trust. Establishing and maintaining a relationship of trust is the first of the nine IAC Coaching Masteries. When a client trusts the coach, the client feels safe to say what they think and how they feel, and to know their words are not judged, and they feel accepted. Isn’ t this what all of us want? Trust is a safe place to be and it is where dreams can be explored without hearing an all too familiar rebuttal from those helpful friends or family members.

    How does a coach learn to build a safe environment for open communication? First, we want to keep our hearts open to accepting others and keeping God’s commandment to love God and love others. And, let me admit that it isn’t always easy to love others, is it? And, to help us understand others, we need tools in addition to the love in out hearts. There are tools to help us communicate more effectively and when we apply the tools, we begin to understand, appreciate and accept the differences in others, and we learn to adapt our own behaviors in order to be more open, and accepting of others who may be a little different from us.

    So, what tools are available to help create a greater awareness and appreciation of others? I use several assessments regularly with my clients, depending on what area the client is exploring in the coaching relationship. I use the DiSC Behavioral Model with  my clients, because it helps me to understand the client’s personality, communication style, and behaviors and is also a wonderful tool for the client to gain insights and self discovery. What a great way to jump start a coaching relationship!

    There are many assessments available to coaches, and all have the potential to be equally effective. The key is not in the tool itself; the key lies in the application of the tool. It is more about the coach’s desire to learn and accept the client and appreciate the differences in human behavior, and it can open the door for the client to explore further, if the client chooses.

    Some coaches use Myers Briggs, while others may use Kiersey, Birkman, Strong. Our school, Christian Coach Institute, trains and certifies Christian Life and Career coaches, and we include the DiSC and a Spiritual Assessment early in the relationship for the client to explore their faith walk.

    What assessment should you use? It really depends on your goal and your coaching niche. Begin with your own research, take the assessments for yourself and talk to others who are using assessments successfully. Find the tool that “fits” your niche and helps your clients.

    What tool do you use and how do you use it?